"Closeted Lesbian"

“Straight girl looking for attention”

“Promiscuous”

“With you I have to be jealous twice”

"I would never have a relationship with a bi person"

"It's just a phase"

All comments I've heard from friends, acquaintances, and both straight and gay partners in my life. Some with malice, others uttered out of ignorance. Between the lines, the same argument is made: “what you are does not exist, it must be something else”.

I discovered myself Bi at 13 years old. I grew up surrounded by mixed stimuli: never fully accepted by straight people but not finding many open arms in the LGBT+ community either. My Bisexuality was a burden in all my relationships with men and women. All with different lines but one message in common: the denial of my existence.

People easily forget that relationships are made with individuals, not genitals.

Today, in therapy, I realize how many things I internalised about how to love myself and others are reflections of that time. Today I have the joy of having a partner who loves and accepts me for who I am, which doesn't mean it was an easy journey. People fear what they don't know.

We need to talk more about bisexuality and our stories.We need to say that biphobia is something real, outside and inside the LGBT+ community.

We exist.

#pride